Definitions and Resources

Verbal Violence

Verbal Violence includes any use of words or voice to control or hurt another person.

Examples of verbal violence can include:

  • Threats to kill
  • Threats to use violence
  • Threats to children
  • Accusation of "screwing around"
  • Calling names (i.e. whore, slut, bastard, etc.)
  • Leaving nasty messages on voicemail
  • Making insinuations
  • "Silent treatment"
  • Sneering
  • Making critical statements like:
    • "You're dumb"
    • "You're stupid"
    • "You're ugly"
    • "You can't do anything right"
  • Yelling
  • Insults
  • Being sarcastic
  • Growling

Emotional Violence

Emotional violence includes any action or lack of action meant to control or demean another person.

Examples of emotional violence can include:

  • Being irresponsible with money
  • Controlling access to money
  • Intense jealousy
  • Withholding sex
  • Criticizing a partner's looks
  • Unwanted sexual demands
  • Isolating another from family & friends
  • Making fun of partner
  • Keeping partner up all night
  • Manipulating with lies
  • Threatening divorce or separation
  • Having affairs
  • Constant questioning about activities
  • Using alcohol and/or drugs
  • Accusations of affairs
  • Not working
  • Keeping partner from working

Physical Violence

Physical violence includes any use of size, strength, or presence to hurt or control someone else.

Examples of physical violence can include:

  • Pushing
  • Shoving
  • Biting
  • Grabbing
  • Pinching
  • Kicking
  • Pulling
  • Kneeing
  • Burning
  • Stabbing
  • Slapping
  • Spitting
  • Choking
  • Shooting
  • Spanking
  • Kicking car, furniture, etc.
  • Restraining
  • Forcibly carrying
  • Backhanding
  • Pinning against wall
  • Pushing out of car
  • Punching with a fist
  • Abuse of children
  • Trying to hit with car
  • Forced sex
  • Throwing things
  • Abuse of animals
  • Driving recklessly
  • Twisting arms
  • Tearing clothes
  • Standing or sitting on
  • Punching walls, doors, etc.
  • Hair pulling
  • Slamming drawers
  • Attack with an object
  • Breaking things
  • Use of size or presence
  • Chasing
  • Unplugging phone
  • Stalking
  • Standing behind car to prevent driving away
  • Taking car keys
  • Taking credit cards, money, checkbook
  • Taking children
  • Trapping
  • Clenching fists as a threat
  • Standing in doorway to prevent exit

Some Intimate Partner/Domestic Violence Resources

Insurance Discrimination Against Victims of Domestic Violence (PDF)  Many insurance companies deny victims of domestic violence access to insurance by using domestic violence as an underwriting criterion (i.e., a basis for determining who to cover, what to cover, and how much to charge).